Interracial Dating...Taboo or Not?

Acts 10:13-15 Then a voice told him, “Get up, Peter. Kill and eat.” “Surely not, Lord!” Peter replied. “I have never eaten anything impure or unclean.” The voice spoke to him a second time, “Do not call anything impure or unclean.” The voice spoke to him a second time, “Do not call anything impure that God has made clean.”

                The above text is about a vision that God had given to Peter in regards to calling people unclean. Peter had only thought of the Jews being worthy of Salvation, but God had a bigger picture. He wanted the message about Jesus to be spread to both Jews and Gentiles alike. There was no longer the need to separate themselves from the people who were once considered as heathens. God wanted the entire world to know and acknowledge His Son, who had come to save all mankind from their sins. So you may ask, what does this have to do with interracial dating? I’m glad that you asked. Let’s get started!

            According to the CDC, National Survey for Family Growth the marriage statistics dated January 1, 201, the statistics for marriages within the United States looks like this:

 

White men—44%

Black men—32%

Hispanic men—43%

White women—51%

Black Women—26%

Hispanic Women—45%

 

I looked at the statistics and was saddened by the low number of Black women within the United States who are married. We are the lowest number on the chart and black men are the lowest as well in comparison to other nationalities. Why is this? Is there something going on with the Black race as to why so many are not getting married? Is there some logical explanation where Black women seem to be the least likely to get married and Black men are not wanting to commit? Is this a sign that the future of the Black race is in trouble due to the lack of marriage between two of the same race? What is a black woman to do and why is there so many problems with even the mention of the “M” word to so many black men? It makes you wonder.

            The other day, I had a real interesting conversation with a friend who is single. She desires to be in a relationship and get married. However, she has not been successful with meeting someone of good quality. At 38 years old, no children and no prospects, she has been wondering what her future is going to look like. She had her life all mapped out and it involved her being happily married, with children, and the white picket fence dream. Unfortunately, her previous marriage ended in divorce and the rest of the dream never happened. A couple of years ago, I told her that she may want to open up her horizons. What did I mean? I meant date outside of the race. At the time, she was absolutely against it unless, he was Hispanic. However, when the topic was revisited the other day, she was more open to it. Her desire was and still is to have a Black man, but the likelihood of being alone doesn’t appeal to her either. She once told me that she didn’t want any “zebra” kids. Now, the “zebra” is looking like “filet mignon.”

            There are a lot of Black women, such as my friend, looking for that special someone within the confines of their race. However, what if that desired Black man never come? Would you pass up an opportunity for love just because he doesn’t have what you feel to be the right skin color? See there are a lot of Black men who are dating other races and they are happily doing so without giving the “sisters” the time of day. So why is it that many Black women are staying true to the cause? Is it the fear of stepping out into the unknown? Could it be the fear of stigma or what others will say? Is it that many feel that they would be betraying their race if they went to the other side? I don’t know about you, but love shouldn’t have a color attached to it. Now, I love our brothers just as much as anyone, but if God chose someone for me who wasn’t of African descent, I would gladly accept the gift without hesitation.

            There is no reason to be lonely just because you feel like you will be betraying your race. I have been around many interracial couples and even though some may give them the “eye” every now and then, they seem to have very happy relationships. This is not to say that there wouldn’t be challenges, but what relationship doesn’t have them? Now many Black women get “salty” when they see a Black man with someone of the opposite race. However, my question is, “Does he love her for who she is, or did he just set out to just date someone of a different race?” See, it’s all about what’s inside and not on the outside. God loves ALL His children and therefore, skin color is not important to Him.

            Now, you do have those who just date outside of their race because they have some inner self-hatred thing going on. However, if they don’t love themselves, it really doesn’t matter who they date or marry, they will still feel the same way until they get help to resolve the issue that is inside of them. You first have to love God, then yourself before you can love someone else. That person can be baby blue, but if you don’t love yourself, it still wouldn’t matter.

            I started talk on this topic because I would like for some of you to weigh in on the subject matter. This is a very interesting topic and therefore, I would like to do a part 2 to this soon. Email me at ktreaser1@yahoo.com or author@klrich.com and give me your views on this subject. I would love to hear from you. Also, look forward to hearing me in the upcoming months on a blog radio daily show. I am looking to have my own talk show where you can  listen to various topics as well as call in and discuss your views. If you have any subjects that you would like discussed on my blog, feel free to submit your request. I look forward to reading them. Thank you and God bless!